This morning, as I sat in front of the glass fireplace for my meditation, my 6 month old puppy Milan caught a glimpse of her reflection in the glass. She started to growl at herself, hackles up, posture tense. I giggled as I watched her react to her own reflection with a combination of suspicion and curiosity, she was either ready to fight or flee.
But then I remembered a Buddhist teaching about the mind.
It explained how everything is a projection of our mind. Everything. We are watching our lives unfold like a movie on a screen. We think it’s real, fixed and is what it is. But we are actually projecting that movie from our minds. It’s like the dog, when she viewed her reflection in the glass, she totally thought she was looking at another dog coming at her. She thought it was real, and she started to react. We do the same thing with everything around us. We view our reflection in the glass, (which is how we perceive the world) and often see a threat staring back at us, (we see enemy, poverty and lack,) we react to that experience as though it’s real. We don’t realize the reflection isn’t real, but rather it’s a manifestation of our mind.
This is where transformation really gets interesting.
If we can get a clear picture of the way we currently view the world, we can start implementing hacks that will help us change the way we choose to see our lives. If we did this, our life would change.
We can recreate our reality. I understood this, maybe for the first time, after listening to Regan Hillyer on the Mindvalley podcast. She said if you want to change your life, you can’t just dream about things getting better, but you must actually change your tolerance levels to reflect a life you want.
That may seem backwards a first, but for me it’s the concept that finally clicked. Everyone else, like Tony Robbins, and all the other personal growth teachers, speak of raising your standards. But, another way to phrase that concept is to look at what you tolerate. Your life will be a reflection of what you tolerate, not what you want.
I started looking around the house, messy countertops, dirty carpet, clutter and piles of boxes stacked high up in the dining room. A to be sold pile. I opened the fridge and looked at at least 10 different containers of food that were old and needed to be thrown out. Two weeks old cut apples, a tiny bit of a 3 day old salad, a tangerine with mold on it, jars of dressing, mustard, and pickles that had been there since we moved in over a year ago, it was clear I have a pattern of scarcity. I have a hard time letting go of things even when they don’t serve me, even when they are rotten and need to be thrown out.
I stared at all the containers on the counter and realized this was a reflection of what I’m tolerating in my life. I started asking myself, why do I keep things around when they no longer serve me, and why am I afraid to throw things out? The fridge became a perfect reflection of my life, it showed me why I am exactly where I am. Regan said, you can’t be in scarcity and abundance at the same time!
Excited about my new revelation, I grabbed the laundry because being organized is now one of my new identities. The pile of clean clothes laid strewn on the couch, ready to be folded. These were my favorite tanks and yoga pants I wear, over and over each week. I noticed most of my shirts were from goodwill. My favorite long sleeve top, which I had found on a trail, had dirty pit stains, and all the shirts were pilling.
I asked myself, if I were to think with a millionaire's mind...would I be tolerating my wardrobe to look like this?
Painfully, I separated all the old, stained, pilled clothes out from the rest, and made a commitment to only wear clothes that reflect my millionaire mind. I own a clothing company for goodness sake, I could at least wear my own, new clothes.
All this came serendipitously this morning like a message had been hand delivered right to my door. You see, I’m in the process of my own complete transformation. For me, there is no more time to read about it, I have to actually implement.
I have a huge goal that I have been afraid to go after for years now. I am going to change every area of my life: my fitness level, my bank account, my business and my home.
My intention is to create a schedule | routine | habit pattern that will set me up for this transformation in every area of my life. I will use the visions I receive and the information that comes downloaded to me during my mediation to guide my path.
I will structure my days with intense focus so that I am able to disrupt my set point, the state I currently live in, to a new set point that more accurately reflects the life and person I want to become.
I want you to join me on this journey if you feel that now is your time for a transformation. Let’s do this..step by step from the beginning. I am going to take every teaching, seminar, book and video I have ever seen, all my therapist education, and all of my experiences to transform my life. Would you like to join me in this transformational journey?